Features F&W Pro The Bar Is (Almost) Always the Best Seat in the House It'll save you time, possibly some cash, and you may walk away with a new friend. By Darron Cardosa Darron Cardosa Darron Cardosa, also known as the Bitchy Waiter, is the voice of restaurant servers. His decades-long career in the restaurant industry and his very active social media presence have made him an expert on all things service related. He says out loud what other servers wish they could say.Expertise: food service, restaurant industry, waiting tables.Experience: Darron Cardosa is a food service professional with over 30 years of restaurant experience. He has waited tables in diners, pubs, chain restaurants, neighborhood bistros, clubs, and had a short stint in a celebrity-owned restaurant before he was fired for blogging about his experience.Over the last 15 years, he has written more than 1,500 articles and blog posts, each and every one about the food service industry. He has written for Food & Wine, Plate, the Washington Post, and others. Darron has been seen on NBC's the Today show and CBS Sunday Morning discussing the service industry. His book, The Bitchy Waiter, was published in 2016, and his years as a professional actor eventually led to the creation of his one-man show, The Bitchy Waiter Show, which tours around the country. Food & Wine's Editorial Guidelines Updated on January 5, 2023 Close Photo: Aanarav Sareen / Getty Images For a lot of restaurant customers, the bar is where you sip a glass of wine while you wait for a table to become available. Or maybe it's a port in the storm because it's the only place left to sit in a very crowded restaurant that you didn't make a reservation for. Begrudgingly, you agree to eat dinner at the bar, elbow-to-elbow with strangers, and face-to-face with the bartender. Don't think of sitting at the bar as a downgrade, think of it as an opportunity. There are a lot of benefits to sitting at the bar for a meal. Are You Being Rude to Your Server Without Realizing It? You get faster service. Think about it. When you sit at a table, your server has to walk from your table to someplace else in the restaurant every time you need something, and that's if you can even find your server. More coffee? They'll be back in a minute. Another fork? They'll go get one. When you sit at the bar, the bartender is right in front of you, and they have almost everything you need right in front of them. Things happen faster at the bar, and when you order another cocktail, they are the ones who are going to make it for you. When you sit at a table and order a cocktail, your server is the middle man, er, the middle person. Businesses often say they eliminate the middleman to save you money, but when you sit at the bar, it saves you time. Happy hour specials exist. Plenty of restaurants offer a happy hour, but so often, those special prices are only good at one place in the restaurant: the bar. Why sit at a table and order a mango Margarita with Hellfire bitters and a Tajin rim when you can sit at the bar and get the same drink for $2 less? If you can find that magical unicorn of a restaurant that also has happy hour food specials, chances are you'll have to belly up to the bar to take advantage of them. Every once in a while, you can find a restaurant that offers happy hour prices no matter where you sit, but more often than not, the bar is where it's at. Granted, you might have to be eating and drinking at 4 p.m., but that's a small price to pay to not pay a large price. The Fine Art of a First Date at a Bar or Restaurant You can talk to your bartender. That's not to say you can't talk to your server; it's just not as easy. A server has customers spread out all over the place and moves throughout the restaurant, while a bartender is directly in front of you, and their customers are sitting right next to you. Chat them up if you feel like it, and they don't seem too busy. It's a great way to build a relationship and maybe eventually be seen as a regular, making your future visits even better. Ask their name and then actually remember it for the next time. Honestly, I keep a note in my phone with the names of bartenders from restaurants so when I go back, I'm ready. Being friendly with the bartender is a great way to possibly score an extra drink on the house. I mean, the liquor is literally right there. It's more social. Okay, talking to strangers may be seen as a con to some, but it's really easy to do when sitting at the bar. It's not an expectation that you'll strike up a conversation with the people next to you, but it's way more likely than if you are all sitting at separate dining tables. This can be especially great if you're a tourist because it's a chance to ask others about this new city you're exploring. Most people who sit at the bar are open to exchanging a few words. The Fine Art of Leaving a Tasting Menu Early, According to a Chef You get dinner and a show. When you sit at the bar, you get to see all kinds of things that you miss when you sit at a little booth next to the restrooms. Sure, there might be a television at the bar, but that's not interesting. What's interesting is observing how lovingly and carefully the bartender creates the cocktails. You can appreciate the precision and detail that goes into each drink and maybe even learn something about your beverage. If you pay enough attention, you might even be able to recreate these drinks at home. Have a question about the ingredients? Ask! Most bartenders are happy to discuss their craft and share their knowledge. No kids are allowed to sit the bar. Period. Dining at the bar isn't for everyone (and definitely not children), but there are a lot of people who might like it if they tried it. It's ideal for one to three people, but anything over that isn't conducive to conversation because you're too spread out. If there are just two of you, search out that elusive corner section of the bar so you can face each other a bit. Be prepared that the barstool might not have a back to lean on, or maybe you'll be closer to a stranger than you're used to. Always look for a hook underneath the bar to hang your bag or umbrella on, and don't forget to take your things with you when you leave. (To any restaurant owners who may be reading this and don't have hooks under the bar: they're cheap, and the value to customers is immeasurable, so go buy some right now.) Sitting at the bar for dinner is an unappreciated option. Call me a barfly if you like, but I'll be sitting there, and I'll get my drink way before you get yours. Was this page helpful? 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